Kubler-ross Grief and Loss

22 April 2021

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— "I'm so sad why bother with anything?" "I'm going to die... What's the point?" "I miss my loved one, why go on?"
During the fourth stage, the dying person begins to understand the certainty of death. Because of this, the individual may become silent, refuse visitors and spend much of the time crying and grieving. This process allows the dying person to disconnect from things of love and affection. It is not recommended to attempt to cheer up an individual who is in this stage. It is an important time for grieving that must be processed.

Acceptance

— "It's going to be okay." "I can't fight it I may as well prepare for it."
In this last stage, the individual begins to come to terms with her/his mortality or that of a loved one.

bereavement

state involving loss

grief

the affect that accompanies bereavement

mourning

Who invented the five stages of grief?

Kubler-Ross

Denial

The person has thoughts that helps them reject the experience.

Anger

Feels a generalized rage at the world for allowing something like this to happen.

Bargaining

Feel guilty, that it's their responsibility to fix the problems.

Depression

the dying person begins to understand the certainty of death. Because of this, the individual may become silent, refuse visitors and spend much of the time crying and grieving.

Acceptance

The loss is accepted and we work on alternatives to dealing with the loss (minimize the loss)

include, 1)Denial 2)Anger 3)Bargaining 4)Depression 5)Acceptance

Denial

— "I feel fine." "This can't be happening, not to me."
Denial is usually only a temporary defense for the individual. This feeling is generally replaced with heightened awareness of possessions and individuals that will be left behind after death.

Anger

— "Why me? It's not fair!" "How can this happen to me?" '"Who is to blame?"
Once in the second stage, the individual recognizes that denial cannot continue. Because of anger, the person is very difficult to care for due to misplaced feelings of rage and envy.

Bargaining

— "Just let me live to see my children graduate." "I'll do anything for a few more years." "I will give my life savings if..."
The third stage involves the hope that the individual can somehow postpone or delay death. Usually, the negotiation for an extended life is made with a higher power in exchange for a reformed lifestyle. Psychologically the individual is saying "I understand I will die but if I could just have more time..."

the overt expression of grief. the usual response to bereavement